Birth order is strongly connected to your personality.Knowing the birth order of the people around you can help you understand them better.Or maybe it’s because I experienced all four appointments myself: I was an only child for three years, until remarriage bestowed me with an older brother; then I was the youngest for three, until the birth of my sister; then I was the middle for eight, until the untimely passing of my brother; then from age 14 on, I’ve been the oldest. ” According to psychologists, the birth-order position you hold for the longest in your family is the one you typically most identify with, so even though the first 14 years of my life weren’t spent as a Firstborn, I’ve held that role for 25 years now.Whether this qualifies me as multi-personality or empathetic or a good candidate for politics/used car sales is up for debate, but that game of sibling checkers paved the way for a keen interest in how where we fall in our family affects us in life, and especially, relationships. So, like it or not, I’ve become pretty organized (read: anal) and prompt (read: anal) and particular (read: neurotic).Taking the lead from their parents, they like taking charge and want everything to be just right.

The issues usually focus on perfectionism and who has control.

Of my many obsessions (HBO’s Girls, neon Crocs, kale, Kentucky basketball, and Peacock Punk — just to name a bewildering few) I can’t get enough of birth order.

Maybe it’s because my father was one of three boys and my mother was one of three girls, and, as a child, I was able to witness the very real and fascinating phenomenon of oldest, middle, youngest.

You can also learn how to deal with a potential partner and learn what kind of conflict can exist between the two of you.

An example would be a first born wife married to a younger brother, she would have traits of being dominant and maternal. You are adored and loved dearly by your parents, and are smothered with attention.