We both didn’t want to go up to the mountain that day, we both almost flaked out, we both were sort of seeing other people (casually) and we are ten years apart.For Jordan, the latter was less of a big deal than it was to me.Initially when we met I completely ruled out the idea of dating him.It wasn’t because I wasn’t attracted to him (I was!
Just a week after my 23rd birthday we were invited skiing with our two friends who had just started dating, my friend broke her wrist, and Jordan and I spent a great deal of the day talking to one another.
Now, I’m not saying these are conscious reasons why dating a man quite a bit older—there have been several moments when I’ve thought that going out with someone closer to my age would be much simpler.
I even tried it when my boyfriend and I took a short break, and I found it was painstakingly difficult and more complicated than my experience dating an older guy. The texting games (How long should I wait to text him back? It’s exhausting), the fear of commitment that plagues most twentysomethings, and the simple fact that most guys my age aren’t as emotionally mature as I am.
Rather than asking him or her such questions directly, lay low and gather your information over time.
If you answer these questions honestly, you’ll have gobs of good information as you try to determine whether a long-term relationship with the older individual could work well.