” This question comes up quite often for soon-to-be divorcees.
And, the simple answer should always be: “Not until your divorce is final.” But, life is rarely simple.
If you find that you just can’t wait until your divorce is final to start dating again, this article provides a few “do’s and don’ts” of dating before you are divorced.
Unfortunately, there is more that you shouldn’t do than should, but first let’s clarify what is meant by “dating.” Legally, “dating” means one-on-one social contact with another person.
Having counseled divorcing couples for more than a decade, I've seen plenty of bad examples of couples doing a poor job preventing the divorce from negatively affecting their lives and parenting. There are other considerations as well so check out this post on dating while separated for other things to think about. More than anything, dating during divorce, especially with kids, depends upon how you go about it as to whether it's good or bad for you.This list focuses on the things I coached them on that worked and helped them to get through one of the most hellacious periods of their life.Why Some Relationships Fail Before getting into the meat of what to do, I’d like to take a little bit of time to share with you statistics about relationships.Even if you’re the one who wanted out, there’s still going to be a big hole in your brain where your relationship used to live.So I decided to sit down and come up with an FAQ / survival guide for divorced guys who are looking to get back in the game.When you're losing a partner through divorce, or more accurately for many people, when a divorce finalizes the loss of a partner who's been gone for a while, it's very tempting to seek out new companionship. Meagan has stated several times in our divorce counseling that she's entitled to "have some fun" since Colin did (without her) during their marriage. Since their separation more than 6 months ago they've handled the custody of their 3 kids 50/50.If his discussion of the divorce is a one hundred percent blaming of his soon-to-be ex-wife, take a step back. If, at the core, the problem with his wife was a drug or alcohol problem, she may be responsible for a big part of the breakup, but he may have developed co-dependent tendencies.This means that he needs to be part of a relationship drama instead of part of a relationship.Dating a guy who is going through a divorce can be a different type of relationship that not all women are equipped to deal with.Although the best advice is to take it as slow as possible, things often speed up without us realizing it, as love can be the natural state of things and seem so easy when it appears.With the "slow it down warning" emblazoned on the relationship, let's look at the possible pitfalls your man presents.