Are your family relationships suddenly filled with tension, every time your partner’s name comes up?
While stressed relationships with others aren’t a sure sign of an unhealthy romance, red flags should go up if everyone who cares about you is getting worried or is being pushed away. Are you doing things you wouldn’t ordinarily do (like drinking or drugs)?
That is, if we think our friends are cheating, or especially that our friends think it’s OK to cheat, we’re more willing to do so ourselves.
Believing that our friends are unfaithful can make these behaviors seem both more desirable and more likely to occur.
Morning friends, This week I am in Round Top, Texas with some very special women I meet with each year for fun, prayer, reflection, refreshment and accountability.
I was hoping for warm weather after barely making my flight out of Philadelphia Saturday morning but the cold weather blew down here too. That I would hear from God, that I would sleep well, that I would connect with other women in a deeper way and would come home refreshed.
There are many reasons why people are unfaithful to their partners, but one possibility is that cheating may seem like a more acceptable behavior for us to engage in if we think it’s commonplace and widely accepted.
My life fell apart.” Sex addiction hurts partners in a way that no other addiction can, says Paula Hall, who has written a book on the subject.I haven’t written a book that specifically deals with adultery as a stand alone issue, but between How to Act Right When Your Spouse Acts Wrong, The Emotionally Destructive Relationship, and The Emotionally Destructive Marriage you will find the crucial stepping stones that will help you and your husband rebuild your marriage.You may also want to look at Dave Carder’s book Torn Asunder.To be fair on Rachel’s friends, there is some debate about whether the term sex addiction is scientifically accurate, but the field of addiction is changing fast and emphasis is shifting from the substance to the psychological symptoms of addiction.The NHS has a website page dedicated to sex addiction.“Everyone else is doing it, so if I have one little dalliance that wouldn’t be so bad." We often compare ourselves to others and compare ourselves to what we believe is typical behavior.According to social comparison theory, if we want to know where we stand on a particular behavior, we compare ourselves to our peers.A study conducted in the Netherlands found that the greater the proportion of their friends people believed to have cheated, the more likely they were to have cheated in the past, and the more likely they were to say that they would be willing to cheat in the future.These effects were even stronger when asking about their friends’ perceived attitudes toward cheating, rather than actual cheating behavior.Are you obsessing about activities that require you to be alone (any time you can’t be with your love)?Have all the goals and activities that previously defined you suddenly been pushed to the back burner for no reason other than that your love is not into them?is overdue, Hall believes, with thousands of partners across the UK struggling with something that evokes all the most destructive ingredients of personal pain – betrayal, infidelity, deceit and shame.“Sex addiction feels extremely personal when you’re the partner because it affects the most intimate part of your relationship in a way that, say, alcohol or drugs just don’t,” she explains.Before you can regain your individuality and strength, you’ll need to determine if the relationship is taking something away, and, if so, put an end to the destructive cycle.