"Take time to remind each other about fond memories you have shared together.

Ask each other, 'Are we using our weekends together just taking care of business, or are we setting time aside to have fun and laugh and be silly?

There was intimacy in this process because communication was direct, respectful, and responsive.

While it may not echo the early days of dating exactly, committed coupledom does not mean a lifelong sentence of drudgery and obligations.

"Things may be fine day today, but the mood of your relationship may need to be revitalized," says Windell.

Ask each other, 'Do you feel like we are treating each other like best friends? "Very, very often, I will have women say, 'You're not paying enough attention to me!

' Men are very specific and concrete, so I always tell them: 'You need to tell him what that looks like.'" Does he need to hold your hand more in public? Men aim to please, and they like it when you give them a roadmap to success.