Again, it’s important to be patient with partners who suffer from depression.If they seem to be prioritizing themselves more than usual, know it is the effects of the depression rather than a character flaw.My first relationship has been and will always be one of the most important relationships in my life, because it taught me so much about love, dating, friendship, and myself. At times, it can be very rewarding and wonderful, because being with somebody you love and care about is like that. It can be stressful, miserable, and incredibly confusing.It can feel like you’re being dragged down into a place that you don’t know how to get out of.I was convinced I would lose all my friends if they knew, that they’d think I was too sad to be around.
That being said, it’s important to know that dating someone who is dealing with this type of thing can make you feel really lost sometimes, especially if you don’t deal with depression yourself.
It can make you feel completely alone, and it can really change who you are.
When it came to my ex-boyfriend, I made a decision that some people don’t understand or that some people believe is wrong – I decided to put myself first; to end things and focus on me, and to not have him in my life anymore (his depression wasn’t the only factor here, by the way). A lot of people feel that their partner, depressed or not, is the person for them, and they want to make it work. Depression can be crippling, but depressed people need loved ones by their side.
And when I try to explain that to you, you might get mad at me because it seems like I'm minimizing your feelings. If you continue to insist that the answer to my lifelong genetic mental disorder is Soul Cycle, don't let the door hit you on the way out, k? It's sort of a combination of dating and playing Russian Roulette with my brain juice. You don't have to read my mind — you just have to take cues. If I ask you to please go get me an iced coffee and a tuna melt and don't yell at me for eating in bed, please do that, if you're not busy. But you should still feel as lucky — (#blessed), if you will — to have me as I do to have you.
" It's more like, "I basically feel awful about everything right now no matter what I do, and there's no external cause that's causing it, therefore, let me sleep."8. It doesn't work for everyone, but it does for lots of people.9.