If he were even remotely serious about you, the conversation wouldn’t scare him.In fact, he would welcome talking about it with you and might even be relieved that you were the one who brought it up first.The longer we were together, the deeper my feelings for him became. His girlfriend surprised him by showing up to a party he threw.I was there, she was there, he was there, all of us in one room.But, that’s why this article is here for you to read today to help you decide if your man is ready for that next step.
You’ve been spending a crazy amount of time together and he makes your heart go boom-boom, but you have yet to have “The Talk” with each other and your relationship status on Facebook still says “Single”.And don’t worry about sounding desperate or needy, either.Nobody’s saying you have to set a wedding date or discuss how many children you’re going to have together.In 99% of relationships, either he’s breaking up with you or you’re breaking up with him. Which means that there’s a bit of risk involved in any relationship, and there’s not a single thing that your trusty dating coach can do to entirely eliminate that risk. This disconnect explains almost all of the friction in dating and once you understand it, you can make a permanent adjustment.What I’d like to do is help you mitigate that risk a bit so that you don’t end up wasting too much time on the “wrong” men. All he knows on the first date is that he’s attracted to you.I woke up the next morning to a text from him saying, “What would you have done if I kissed you last night? We hooked up countless times and I really started to fall for him.This relationship (or whatever you want to call it) spanned over nine blissful months.She had no clue about what was going on between us, but everyone else did.I had been hanging out with all of them for months. But the messed up thing was, I still liked him and wanted to be with him.All it means is that when he shows up on the first date with you and sees how attracted you are, he’s not thinking about the long-term future, he’s thinking about the short-term future: Once again, I’m not proud of this fact, but it’s true. In this time, when you feel like you’re in limbo, he’s giving you a lot of information about his intentions, based on the effort he makes for you.Men become focused on the here and now, trying to make the most of the present moment. If he enjoys seeing you platonically and wants to talk to you on the phone, and not every date is planned around him trying to get you in bed, you might just have a man who actually LIKES you.Which brings us to a notion that I articulated in which has a funny way of always resurfacing on this blog: “Men look for sex and find love.” This doesn’t mean he’s a player or a liar or a loser. The way he figures out if he really wants to be in a relationship with you is based on the quality time you spend talking over that first month or two.This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be a good husband and father one day. This is completely separate from his desire to sleep with you.The last thing you want to do is rock the boat or come across as desperate and needy, though, so you’ve resisted raising the subject with him.