She says her parents (mainly her mother) are strict Muslims. The first time she went anywhere except school was to a baseball game with the university 7 months ago.
However, she doesn't seem to hold the same interest as her mother.
” I wonder if white men get asked the same question: do they find their choice in white women limiting? If I happen to find a white guy who shares the same values and there’s chemistry, sure! If I’m on a dating site where they ask you and I have to choose, I don’t pick white.” “Have you ever tried to date a white guy? “Actually, my longest relationship – two years – was with a white guy. But as a teenager – all I knew was that I was rebelling against my parents’ traditional ideas.
“Well, yes, it started out as a political decision but it has manifested into preference. I just don’t find white men that attractive anymore.” “Do you find that limiting? I would later learn how living in a society where positive or attractive images of brown men and women were marginalized or non-existent would affect who I thought was attractive.
I shift uncomfortably, choosing my words carefully. I would later learn about internalized racism and conditioning and how this shapes our preferences and self-worth.
At my University, I have all my classes with a Muslim girl.
It can be a form of courtship that consists of social activities done by the couple.
The protocols and practices of dating, and the terms used to describe it, vary considerably from country to country and over time.
His family are not strict muslim as such and he is the only one in his family who smokes and drinks and feels like he is a bit of an outcast due to his past.
I was wondering if anyone has some insight on the issue I'm having.