After the relationship ended, I realized how important it was to be honest about my interests with my partner and with myself.
It’s easy to feel jaded in the modern dating world.
It’s awesome to introduce your partner to new things, but it’s not awesome to sacrifice your own likes and dislikes because you want someone to stay interested in you.
When I fell in love for the first time, I was quick to get swept up in baseball, U2 and other things I didn’t really care for.
We all crave comfort and familiarity, especially when it comes to our romantic relationships.
This explains why experiencing a breakup is so devastating for us. It’s about losing the routine you had with that person, and the chance to make new memories together as a couple. No matter how much you fight it, your life will be completely different 10 years from now.
Jeff was ready and waiting when my relationship ended. I’d finally check him off my list, feel better about my breakup and move on. Within two weeks, Jeff told me he loved me, and I quickly reciprocated.
My heart was in pieces, and I didn’t have a clue how to put myself back together, or what I would look like once I did. I needed to escape from the memories at every turn, and I needed to turn off the scenes of our relationship that constantly replayed in my mind. “I’ve made a terrible mistake.” I couldn’t do this alone. Anyone who witnessed the dawning of this realization and moment of sheer terror that followed probably avoided me like the plague.
I was desperate to get away, and I was itching to get “out of my own body.”I was desperate to remove myself from my own life. Sure, you’ve heard of people taking off on a week-long vacation after a breakup. Immediate thoughts of dropping the rest of my monetary worth on an impromptu return trip home were pushed reluctantly aside.
Thinking about my love life at 23 years old, it baffles me that I have spent nearly a third of my life in long-term relationships.
I have had two relationships, the first lasting four years, and the second spanning three. Looking back, I have realized that although I was only 15 when my first relationship began, I learned so much about myself.